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Stuck on Turn-Ons

"Love the things you desire for the love of them draws them to you. These are the things of life. When you love them, you love life. Choose sex as a celebration of love.
Give yourself abundant pleasure and you will have abundant pleasure to give others. The more pleasure that you can give to yourself the more pleasure that you can give to another. Feeling good is the soul's shouting 'This is Who I Am'."

- Neale Donald Walsch⁣

What kinds of experiences feel good to you?⁣

My Turn-Ons exist in my body- the ways I like to be touched, what I like to smell, the sounds that get me juicy, and what I look at. I realized that for others it is what is going on in their head-fantasies, ideas, and imagination. ⁣

Or a combination of both. ⁣

I didn't once understand Turn-Ons. I thought I needed them in order to be a good lover for my partner. In 2016, I lost all sexual pleasure with my partner, so I sought the help of a Somatic Sex Educator. ⁣

She brought it down to two things: Safety and Embodiment.

So this is what I am writing about- how to understand Safety/Embodiment/Vulnerability to have liberated sexual pleasure. Liberating our sexuality helps liberate humanity. ⁣

We can't dehumanize one other if we are connected through love and nothing beats sexuality and eros to make that connection clear. ⁣

(This may be why sexuality is used TO dehumanize when we lose our own humanity).⁣

I would love to hear your story of how you discovered and deepened your relationship with personal pleasure and desire. Stories are a strong healing modality because we all have them and they help us relate to one another. I get that most of us are way more private than me though, but if you have something you want to share of discovering your Turn-Ons, I am here for that. ⁣

I like to include real stories in my writing so I am seeking them here- and know that if I do want to use them I will personally reach out to you for consent.

Much love and blessings,


Feel free to reach out to me, I would love to keep in touch via Instagram @SexMedDoc and @MakeTimeForTheTalk, via Facebook at and via email at

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